at 25, am i an adult yet?
Last night, as I was sitting around the television with my mom and sister, I couldn't believe that I was going to turn 25. Yes, I've had more than a couple of conversations with some of my friends within the past few weeks, so I knew this day was coming.
Yet, I was still overcome with a few thoughts and emotions. I was never going to be able to say I was 24 again. I don't know why, but 24 was such a comfortable number. Young enough to still be called a young adult, and old enough to not be thought of as some young inexperienced kid.
Even with the ups and downs of life, I have to say that 24 was probably the best year of my life. I hit so many milestone and achievements, and while there were more than a few downs, I'm still so pleased with how my year turned out.
I'm left wondering...is 25 going to treat me as well as 24 did? I technically started my birthday celebration last week when I went on a week long trip to Tampa, Key West, and Cuba! I had the best time with some close people in my life, so I have to say that 25 has treated me pretty well so far.
Not only that, but now that I'm 25, am I considered an adult yet? When I was younger, I would look at people in their mid and late 20's thinking that those people were the grown ups. That those adults had their lives sooo put together.
Well, here I am now, 25 years old, in my official mid-20's, and let me tell you, I don't feel like I have my shit all put together. Is there ever going to be a moment when you realize like, "shit, I'm an adult now"? Or is it more like you go through an endless stream of trying to figure shit out?
I gotta say, I am the most confident, self-assured, put together, and myself that I've ever been, but is that enough? I'm at a stage where some of my friends are partying every weekend, and others are getting married or already have kids! It's such a weird stage to be in our lives.
People are constantly asking you about your significant other and when you're going to settle down and maybe want to have kids. It's an odd feeling, because kids are the last thing on my mind.
I'm still trying to figure who I am and what I want, before I even consider bringing another person into this world and raise them to try to figure out who they are. To be honest, it's not just the fact that I'm trying to figure myself out, it's also the fact that I don't want kids right now.
Despite the obvious of not dating someone serious, I just don't want that in my life at the moment. I'm having too much fun traveling and having fun in general. While some people's dreams are to become parents, it's not mine.
Am I not an adult because I still want to go out and dance the night away a few nights a month with some friends? Or because I still live with my parents?
You know what's funny? I honestly don't care about whether I'm considered an "adult" or not. I think what unnerves me a little bit, is the idea that I've been alive for 25 years. The thought that from the moment I turned 23, things have been flying so quickly. It's like I blink and a whole year passes by. It's more like, "how is it possible that I'm already 25"!? It's honestly a little scary.
I know when I was younger, people told me that as you get older time flies. Well, they definitely weren't kidding.
Before I leave you to enjoy my birthday, I will give you one piece of advice. Enjoy life, do what you want to do, because everyone has a limited amount of time. You don't ever want to look at life and realize you're miserable, because you didn't go after what you wanted out of life. Remember, you only live once (that's the motto, Yolo [definitely referencing Drake right now, so say it in his voice]).
What piece of advice you've gained from getting older? Let me know in the comments down below! Sending you love, strength, and positivity.
-melina xxx
I don't think that there's every really a point where we start to feel like adults, I feel the exact same as I did at 16, just with more responsibility haha. Remember, age is just a number. I hope 25 treats you well!
I definitely feel like an 18-21 year old. I know it feels oddly specific, but i do! You're right, we just have more responsibility and more of an idea of what we want out of life and out of ourselves. Thank you so much love xx
haha that IS specific! I wish I could have just stopped aging at 23. That's the age I would want to be forever.
26 isn't so bad though!
I agree with you, if anything 25 has treated me much too well (only a month in, but you get the point)
I can definitely relate to you!
I'm 25 & I have friends who have started careers & families & others who are just now starting college or still figuring out what they want to do.
I feel like everyone is winging it when it comes to being an adult. Even our parents didn't have some guide to being an adult but somehow they raised us & had careers. So like you mentioned I think being an adult is about being able to do what we want.
I also agree with you that time does fly as you get older...
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Thank you so much for your thoughtful response, and for reading my post overall! xx
AHH I am a little late, HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY Melina, I hope you had a wonderful day and will have a fantastic 25th year!! <3
I completely relate to everything you wrote here. I'm 25 as well and I feel in that... strange in between, people around me either partying or settling down with marriage and kids already. It's so strange, seeing people being at such different stages in life while having that exact same age as you are ahha.
Anyway, I'm rambling on ahah I hope you had a wonderful birthday, sending you lots of love <3
Thank you so much! It's interesting that while I see all these people in all these stages, I don't feel bad for where I'm at in life? I just feel like it's semi-odd in terms of the fact knowing some people have kids, which is something I'm DEFINITELY not ready for. Thank you so so so much xx
I hope you had an amazing birthday!! Even at 18 I still think to myself, how on Earth have I been alive that long? That is just crazy, and it makes me feel so old! Its definitely true that the older you get, the quicker time flies. xx
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Omg yes! I can sometimes sit for so long and wonder how did I reach 25?! It's exactly like you said, how have I been on this earth for that long!? Thanks so much for the lovely comment 🙂 xx
Two days belatedly, happy 25th birthday!!!!!! I hope all of your birthday wishes come true.
25 is a wonderful age to be. Thanks for sending the love, strength, positivity, and for your excellent advice. I have gotten old, and although getting old is better than the alternative (other than finding the fountain of youth or mastering time travel), I have to admit that I envy you. Although I promised myself that I would never grow up, the need to do adulting can be very difficult to avoid without suffering some sort of consequences. I do have some very fond memories, but sometimes regret not having had a daughter or two (I never had children).
My best pieces of advice are to take good care of yourself, appreciate your parents (mine are deceased), enjoy your youth and your time on this planet. You have a fabulous attitude toward life. I hope this year will be every bit as wonderful as your last. All my best wishes for the years ahead. Happy birthday again!
Thank you so much! If you ever want to have children, you can always adopt! It's never too late to raise a child and call them your own.
Thank you so so so much for the kind words and the advice you've given me. xxx