where is the bump in the road?

A lil' bit of background information

Before moving in with J, everyone told me to expect some bumps in the road. That there was going to be a transition period. And during that transition period to know that things won't always go smoothly. From the stories my friends told me, it seemed liking moving in with a significant other could make or break your relationship. When more than one person told me very similar things about moving in with a significant other or friends, I expected the worst. I thought that we were going to start fighting, or not want to spend time with each other. Even worse, what if he hates living with me and we end up breaking up. Looking back, I never once considered the fact that I might hate living with him.

This might stem from lingering insecurities that I'm trying to nip in the bud. I'm not quite there yet, because my anxiety was eating me alive a few months leading up to the move. I actually wrote about it (in case you missed it).

I almost convinced myself that this is was a terrible idea, and that I could potentially regret it. I couldn't understand how everyone goes through this. This would be the first time I was moving in with a significant other. And even though our relationship was going really well, I was scared.

I've mentioned this before, but I'm terrible with change. And moving out to move in with your significant other is one of the biggest changes in life!

About the actual move

We finally get to move in day, and things don't go overly smoothly. It was raining the whole weekend, and so driving was a pain in the ass (especially in a UHaul). The delivery for our couch came before we got the keys to our apartment, so we had to beg the delivery drivers to wait 10-15 minutes while we went to get the keys. Luckily we got help from friends and family throughout the weekend of moving (shoutout to Sanman for helping J move in the bedroom furniture and putting together the bed, and shoutout to Sofia for building my media console for the living room! You guys are true real ones) . Overall, it wasn't the worst experience in the world, just not super stressful.

Originally, we were supposed to move in on Sunday, but fortunately we were able to get the keys on Saturday, and start our move then. That ended up making our move much smooth than we originally thought it was going to be.

An update on how it's going

It's officially been a little over a month, and I'm pleased to announce that we've had little to no issues at all! I would even go as far to say that moving in together has made our relationship even better.

While we both have more responsibilities, it's been pretty easy. I feel like we really knew what we were both getting in to when we moved in together. We already spent most weekends together, that we weren't so caught off guard by living together.

We have also vacationed together a few times.

The way this whole thing has gone so smoothly, it's honestly shown how truly compatible we both are with one another. While there's more compromise, we're both willing to meet each other mid way. Things that I thought might be potentially an issue, are non-existent problems. I know it's only been a lil' over a month, but I'm relieved that it's come and gone as smooth as it has.

Even with Luca's surgery, choosing furniture & artwork, and co-habiting, it's going better than ever. I can't wait to see what the rest of the year has in store for the two of us! I'm not complaining that there hasn't been any bumps in the road thus far.

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For those of you that have moved in with a significant other or even a roommate, how did it go? Was it smooth from the get go, or were there lots of bumps in the road? Please let me know! I would love to know how your experiences went.

I have to say that it feels nice to take the time to sit down and write something up. I've missed chatting more in depth with you about certain topics.

Chat soon 🙂 x