Why is it so hard to sell ourselves?
I've always had trouble selling myself to others. I always felt like I was...bragging? At the same time, I would always think in my head that if I did try to sell myself, I was, overselling? Like, "what if I'm not as hard of a worker as I think I am?". It's kind of hard to me to gauge how I am in relation to other people.
I've always found it difficult to sell myself, but I've been struggling with this more recently, because I'm trying to figure out how to go from receiving free products in exchange for an honest review to actually getting paid to write those posts/reviews. Now, I'm not complaining at all. I appreciate all the beautiful and lovely products I've been getting sent to me, I just have this dream to make this a full time gig, and while I've grown loads since I first started, I just don't know how to take that next step.
I don't know how to pitch myself to companies. Partly, because of my insecurity of not being enough, and partly because I don't know why I lie in comparison with all the other amazing bloggers out there!
I know that I work hard, and try my hardest to make my content interesting, well-written (well, most of the time. Sometimes I like to write the way I speak, I just feel like it's more...me?), and genuinely honest.
Even though I put in a lot of work into my posts and my blogging in general, I don't know if it's enough. What if my blogs posts aren't what companies are looking for in terms of quality?
Why is it so simple for us to look at someone's work, and be able to sell another person (even if their quality level is just as good as yours), but when it comes to ourselves, it's so difficult? Is it cause we can't look at our work unbiased? Is it because we're too hard on ourselves? Maybe a little bit of both?
I'm really working on getting better, and if you guys have any tips, please let me know! Why do you think it's so hard to sell ourselves? Let me know in the comments below!
I told you guys I was going to try to write a post up sometime this weekend, and instead of letting the funk get me down, I'm going to fight it! Is anyone else having trouble with the transition of summer ending? Just know, you can get through this. We'll get through it together (I'm always a message away if you need someone to talk to about, anything)!
So here I am on a Sunday, publishing a post. I've been thinking of switching my posts to Tuesdays and Fridays instead of Tuesdays and Thursdays? I don't know yet, just something I'm thinking about. Thank you so much for reading, it literally means the world to me. As always, have a wonderful day/night. Sending you love, strength, and positivity.
-Melina xxx
I totally get it, it's a lot easier to sell someone who isn't ourselves because you have an outside perspective. There's no real way for us to know how other people are perceiving us so I think it's hard to look at our own work with that outside look.
One of my goals for this year was to start pitching to brands but so far I've been too timid, I need to work on this too.
Brands would be lucky to work with you Melina, your posts are always so thoughtful, genuine and as you said, well written! I love reading your blog and I'm sure brands will see how much work you put into it.
Omg thank you so much for your kind words! Maybe 2019 will be the year of brand sponsorships 🙂 Let's work towards that goal together xxx
Yes lets! 2019 will be great 🙂
Great question! I think it all comes down to lack of belief in ourselves. Deep down, we don’t believe we are good enough for that job or for that opportunity and that makes it hard for us to sell ourself but can also lead us to miss so many amazing opportunities! xx
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I think you're so right! I have to gain some more confidence, and believe that I AM good enough. Thank you so much for reading and commenting love 🙂 xx
Oh I can feel this deep in my soul and bones, Melina, ahah. I always have the hardest time selling myself just as well, whether it's in a blogging, or a real life opportunity. I am always afraid to come off as bragging, and I always feel like I am not enough compared to other bloggers out there. It is a silly feeling though, because we all are there, doing this and we all are unique in our own way. I personally find you always so authentic in your blog posts and, like you've written it here, you're right: I feel like I'm casually having a conversation with a close friend when I read your posts and your thoughts on these topics and that's definitely something you should and can perfectly "sell". Keep on being yourself, Melina, and trust yourself, I know how hard this can be sometimes, but you have and will keep on getting incredible opportunities, I am certain of it, because you work hard and you're genuine and you deserve them all <3 Keep on going, you're amazing <3
Omg, thank you so so so much. You always right the most amazing comments that literally make me so happy! I'm sorry to hear you can relate to this! I don't know you in your "real life", but I know from your blog that you are an amazing person with so many amazing qualities. Your blog is definitely one of my favorites, and you should definitely take pride in the blog that you have created! You should be so proud of yourself, and not be afraid to sell yourself, because you are a wonderful person with a great blog 🙂 xxx
Aww you're way too sweet, thank you so, so much Melina, this means the world <3 <3 <3
And it's my pleasure, really, you're incredible and I'll always be there to support you and your work! <3
I love your posts! And YOU are enough! As a content creator it is something I think most if not all of us struggle with. I know I definitely do. Perhaps it is insecurities, but I also find the people (and this might sound conceited) that have the most doubts, are the ones who SHOULD be selling themselves because they are the most authentic and knowledgable. You are amazing beauty and you deserve all the success! Keep doing you! <3
omg thank you so much! This is one of the nicest comments I've ever received, and it has definitely made my day! Thank you thank you thank you! xxx